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Read MoreWe all get by with help from our friends. But there is more to giving and receiving help than meets the eye. Let's help each other out with our help stories!
Read MoreA reflection in poetry and photos by Jeanette Mayo. The goal is not to pray more, or worry less…
Read MoreWho needs one more thing to do? And more people to manage relationships and communication with? I know I don’t. Yet…
Read MoreFabric Young adults get a chance to disconnect from technology and the fast pace of life while finding connection to ourselves, each other and something we can’t quite put words to.
Read MoreI think the biggest thing for me at camp was it was the most peaceful and present I had felt in a long time. It felt really good to step away from real life for a moment.
Read MoreROAM through some readings to stretch your doubt muscles.
Read MoreOlivia Jutila and Alexa Miller share their talents of writing and digital art to reflect on our High School trip to Appalachia.
Read MoreThere is a common refrain I hear from folks as they first start getting to know Fabric…
Read MoreOur direct dive into the Dangerous Book, a.k.a. the Bible, has ended. But like all of our conversations it was designed to spark beginnings.
Read MoreA way to be Fabric with Kali Pliego. On the topic of Purposes and Preferences, I had an opportunity to live into purpose drop into my lap recently at work…
Read MoreWe are excited to welcome Jen Metz to Fabric's staff! She will be working very part time, but bringing big strengths to bear. Her main role will be Nest coordinator, connecting our youngest kiddos and their families. She will also serve as Sunday Site Host, guiding our set up an tear down crews most weeks.
Read MoreAn introvert’s take on being with yourself versus by yourself.
Read MoreOur takeaway from this week’s message—Hope is a mode I can practice—got me wondering…
Read MoreTurns out that TRUST is important for relationships! It’s time to learn how to build it.
Here’s the scenario. You are going to be together with someone with whom you have major differences in attitude and opinion. You can employ Tactics, Speaking, and Listening to deal with the situation. Some of them are more helpful than others. Which of the following will you do and why? And what ones do you find yourself doing even though you probably shouldn’t?
TACTICS
Avoid the person
Avoid the conversation
If THE subject comes up, Say nothing
Say nothing to them and complain to everyone else
Change the subject
Hang out around them
Express interest in them
Learn something about them ahead of time and do some research so you can talk about it
Calm yourself beforehand
Let someone else know what you are doing so they can support you
SPEAKING
Tell them they are wrong
Explain why they are wrong
Explain why they are wrong nicely
Call them names
Ask them, Do you REALLY believe that?
Ask them, Why do you believe THAT?!?
Ask them, HOW can you believe that?
Explain to them the ramifications on the world of what they believe
Ask them if they want to know what you think.
Explain how you are trying to be open to them, and that they aren’t doing that for you
Ask what brought them to believe what they do?
Ask clarifying questions
Reflect what you hear to confirm understanding
If asked what you think, use “I” statements instead of “You” statements.
LISTENING
Listen for the weakness in their argument
Roll your eyes often
Interrupt
Listen for a pause… so you can get your point in
Listen to understand
Listen for the person behind the words
On my own, “doing something” about racism (and other deep divides on display right now) feels daunting. And it is easy to get caught in traps of helplessness, defensiveness, shame and blame.
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We all get by with help from our friends. But there is more to giving and receiving help than meets the eye. Let's help each other out with our help stories!
A reflection in poetry and photos by Jeanette Mayo. The goal is not to pray more, or worry less…
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